From getting over those inevitable wobbles to looking his best – here’s how to get your man ready for the big day
We hear lots about getting the bride ready for her big day but what about the groom? Whether it’s choosing the right look and delivering a perfect speech or helping to organise the event itself – and keeping calm – there are plenty of things for men to think about ahead of the nuptials. LIVING decided to put the spotlight on the man with these tips for the groom.
1. The clobber
Choosing what to wear is arguably one of the biggest decisions for both bride and groom.
And let’s be honest, the dress takes precedence, but the groom’s choice is still key.
“Consider what will work with the style of your day,” says wedding photographer Amanda Hutchinson. “A laidback festival style wedding means that a formal look isn’t going to work so you can strike morning suits and tuxedos from your list. For this kind of day, an informal, even mis-matched look will work. Think tweeds and brogues and you’ll be spot on.
“A cool city wedding needs a sharp, tailored contemporary suit while a classically elegant affair requires a more formal feel. Once you start narrowing down options, the process becomes easier.”
Samuel Petty, founder of silk scarf brand David Watson, added: “Pocket squares are an essential accessory. Groomsmen can all be matching with the same pocket square or all wearing a different design to reflect their personalities or how you know them.”
2. The best man
One of the groom’s major considerations is the best man – and it’s not as easy as it seems. After all, a good best man must be reliable and capable of delivering a humorous speech without crossing the line into being inappropriate.
Amanda Hutchinson said: “For sure you’ve got great mates who’ve been by your side for years but before you promote one to the lofty heights of best man, just think. He might be a great laugh on a night out but are you sure you can trust him with rings, responsibility, speeches and wedding day diplomacy? A great best man will help you out and make you look even better.”
3. The speeches
Many grooms admit they get nervous about giving a speech. Understandably, it can be daunting for those not used to talking in front of a room full of people.
Experts at micro-learning platform and app, Blinkist have plenty of top tips.
A spokesman said: “You don’t want it to become too generic, so make sure to add personal touches – whether those are referring to the couple’s favourite pet, or a special milestone.
“Once you have the basics down, start practising your speech out loud, ideally in front of the mirror. You will want to keep your audience entertained and engaged, so try not to look down at a piece of paper too much when reciting.
“If you think you can just ‘wing’ a wedding speech, think again, because you really can’t.”
4. And finally…
In the days leading up to the wedding there are plenty of things that can potentially go wrong or create a last-minute panic.
But there are steps to take if the groom is feeling anxious.
Tom Bourlet, who has worked in the stag do industry for many years, said: “Hang up and lay out all the clothing for the next day in advance, so you’re completely aware where each item is. This will avoid any nervous searching the next morning.
“Many grooms will be too nervous to eat first thing on their wedding day, but as there could be extended periods of time without being able to eat, it’s important to have some food.”
Personal development expert Kenny Mammarell-D’Cruz added: “Accept changes of plans and unforeseen circumstances rather than getting dramatic and still not being able to change things. Magical memories are made from mishaps. On my own wedding day, the cabbie took my best men and I to the wrong town hall!
“It all ended perfectly, and we have hilarious memories.”
Kenny also advises grooms to pick how they want to spend time leading up to the wedding, whether it’s with friends, being alone or doing exercise.
And he added: “Remember, it’s all right to cry at your own wedding – boys don’t cry, but real men do.”
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